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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The nature of a job is paying someone else to do thing you don't have the time, desire, or ability to do. Welcome to the working world.[/quote]

I'm a MB, and I will bite. I have a nanny for many more hours than I work (I work very part time). Here is why. Without a nanny, I do not have the

1. Time: to spend one-on-one time with all four children every day. Cook a dinner which takes an hour. Go to appointments. Exercise. Nap if the baby was up all night.
2. Desire: to play kid games like Candyland. Go to the park and swing, and swing, and swing. Go to every week of Music Together, or My Gym. Drive, drive, drive. 
3. Ability: to give baths (I can, but I have a bad back, and I specifically hired a nanny to take this chore off my plate. I cannot bend over for even the short time it takes to bathe a toddler without a lot of pain). to come up with "fun" motivations for cleaning or other "have-to-dos." My nanny has an ECE degree; she has lots of ideas for activities I would never come up with.[/quote]

Totally understood.

I worked 24/7 for a DB, reasons listed below.

1. Time:  When all food is cooked from scratch, there's no housekeeper (other than nanny and family), it's a single parent household and that parent works on call every day, and works a job until it's finished, even if it means he's away for a week, he needs someone more than the normal 40-55 hours a week.
2. Desire: Conservative family, raising girls to be wives and mothers, boys to be husbands and providers.  Dad models the behavior he wants to see for his boys when they are adult, so doesn't do cooking, housework or childcare.  Anything that breaks is fair game for anyone capable of fixing it who has time and inclination.
3. Ability: I was hired because I know how to educate and motivate kids, and his kids were homeschooled.  He also can't boil water, let alone cook a meal for 7 hungry kids.  Yes, he could do housework, but not in the amount of time I can, and he doesn't have the patience to teach children how to do it.  No, he knows he's not good at childcare, he either gets very frustrated and scares the kids (hit at them more than once until I spoke to him about it) or lets them get away with murder.  He's also incapable of fastening a diaper so that it doesn't fall off...

Overall, he pays for 24/7 care from someone who wants to be the mother figure, and he gets precisely that.  He stays the father figure (in a very antiquated, conservative way, but that's his style), and he's happy with that.[/quote]

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