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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In a similar position OP, except our nanny has been staying w/ us all week because she's terrified of the weather.  So I was able to go to work today but I doubt she'll leave until at least tomorrow.

She wants to be a live-in and we don't have the space or desire for a live-in.  As a result she is angry and resentful (openly).  She's kind of sealed her fate this week - which is a shame.  We probably moved beyond being a good fit for each other more than a year ago but I've been reluctant to pull the trigger.

Mother Nature may have helped us significantly this week.

I will be sure to have a much clearer weather policy in the next contract, and to hire someone who is a more confident driver.  (And no - I'm not saying anyone at all should have been on the roads yesterday.  But our nanny didn't drive all week and that's just nuts.  And unsustainable - even if you lived in TExas this week!)[/quote]

We're all damned if we do, and apparently also damned if we don't. Your nanny was at work at week, allowing you to go to work, yet you complain. To think you people thought it a good idea to procreate. [/quote]

Yes, she was at work all week.  She was also in our guest room all week, and ate all the dinners and b'fasts I made.  She went out during the day (we only had one day of bad roads) when she wanted to but was paralyzed w/ fear of driving at night so couldn't go home.  She also spoke repeatedly of how previous employers paid all her medical costs when she slipped and fell on the ice on their property, said she doesn't feel welcome (she stayed with us ALL week!), and made yet another snarky remark about how "I know you just like to be alone with only your family".

So, from the damned if you do/damned if you don't camp - we actually have a nanny who is openly critical about us wanting to have our evenings/weekends to be with our kids, and seems to think we are failing to care for her sufficiently.  This was just the straw that broke the camel's back, which came after a year in which we paid her for more than a month of additional leave with no notice (illness and death in the family), advanced her a raise to help with car repair costs, and did several others things to support her that fall well outside traditional employer/employee parameters.

So the scales have finally tipped and we'll be making a change.  So be it.  I am quite certain there are nannies out there who can maintain more appropriate boundaries and who will find us to be caring, considerate, professional employers.  [/quote]

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