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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why do so many of you say no one can replace the bio mom?  It's done in adoptions all the time.  If a child spends most of its waking hours with as caregiver then the child is bonded with that person and that person is more important.[/quote]

Nonsense.  A mother is the mother regardless of how the baby came to them (either birth or adoption).  The nanny is not getting up in the middle of the night with the baby, the nanny does not have a room in their home and tells the child she is "going home" in the evenings so the child knows they do not share a home, the nanny is not a part of the family unit to the baby, all the books we read reference Mommy and Daddy - I have never actually seen nor read my charge a "nanny" book.   It has nothing to do with biology - it has to do with being a mother or father.

To OP - your child SHOULD love and be bonded to his nanny.  This is absolutely in the best interest of your son and ALL studies have come to the same conclusion.  He must be made to feel that he is safe and cared for when Mommy and Daddy aren't there.  His seeming preference for the nanny will come and go - it means nothing.

I am a nanny to a 16 month old boy (have been his nanny since his birth) and he is currently going thru a stage where he cries when I leave in the evening.  It actually has nothing to do with me -- he simply sees me going outside without him and he always wants to go outside.  [/quote]

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