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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
You're getting 2 extra weeks of paid vacation, and you are unwilling to drive 72 miles round trip and get their dogs from the boarders? Really?

And I don't quite understand how that would take up "a good portion" of your day. Where do you live/work that driving 72 miles, picking up/dropping off dogs takes more than 3 - 4 hours, max?

I guess I think a little give and take makes for a good work relationship. It's not like they told you they needed you to dog sit for 2+ weeks, right?

This exactly.

I would absolutely think it selfish for a nanny with an extra paid two weeks can't do one errand on her last day (after 13 days of doing nothing) especially is she is paid guaranteed hours.

Does this work in the reverse? Does a nanny family that doesn't do something they are not contractually obligated to do deserve judgement? There are some families that choose to not offer guaranteed hours. There are families that choose not to give bonuses, or acknowledge birthdays, etc. I do not think that choosing not to do something that you are not obligated to do, and that falls significantly outside of your typical duties makes someone a bad employee.

If the rest of their relationship is otherwise good, refusing to do this should not make or break it. Doing it out of fear or some imagined obligation, however, is a good way to end up bitter and resentful. In 6 months OP will be one of the many nannies on here complaining that they go the extra mile for their NF and it never seems to be enough/isn't ever acknowledged. Boundaries are not a bad thing, and flexibility doesn't mean agreeing to any and everything that is asked.

Being paid while they are away is not some gift to you OP. You don't owe them for it any more than you owe them for paid holidays that you negotiated, your own vacation time, or your paycheck. This was all part of the deal.[/quote]

Sure, it works in reverse, but your examples aren't equivalent at all. Guaranteed hours are a negotiated perk. Personally, I think they are standard, but not all families think the same so a nanny needs to protect her interests when negotiating a job. Bonuses are earned and it is childish to expect that NFs acknowledge birthdays. None of these examples are the same as OP's issue. OP is being paid an extra two weeks to do nothing and balks at one simple errand. OP is being treated well and is being whiny and entitled.

A better example is a nanny who is similarly generous with an employer who is not appreciated for her generosity. Say, the parents are late on a regular basis and nanny just stays without complaint and without extra charge. In that case, absolutely you can judge the NF. They are getting a benefit and acting entitled and not appreciating a good working relationship. Judge away.

I absolutely agree with you that boundaries are a good thing, but the nanny is not being asked to do anything super egregious. She is sitting around collecting a paycheck for doing nothing (an extra two weeks, not her negotiated vacation time or PTO) and she can't be bothered to do one errand...even though she has guaranteed hours and is expected to be ready and available to work. Yeah, I judge her. I would remember this come bonus time and when I consider whether to keep her or find a new nanny.

Now, if her NF routinely violates boundaries and expects her to do all kinds of extra work while they are gone, that is different and nanny should get a new job. But that isn't what OP posted. And my guess is that this nanny won't be seeking new employment because an extra two paid weeks off is a pretty sweet deal.[/quote]

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