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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is stating your policy "demanding"? This is business. There is nothing wrong with saying, "if I accept your position, these are my terms". This is a conversation you have before you accept any job. Do you think your MB "asked politely" for her salary and benefits, or do you think its more likely that she had an idea of what she wanted, stated it, and negotiated? [/quote]

I'm an MB and no, I didn't just state what I wanted when being hired for a new job.  And it's not the same thing as negotiating salary to just state/demand, whatever you want to call it, terms that aren't standard.  Say I have to drive a lot for my job.  I don't just tell my boss before hire, "By the way, if you want to hire me you will need to pay for my gas." You say, I'd be happy to take the job BUT it seems like a lot of driving which will be costly so unfortunately I can't accept the position unless you are able to reimburse my gas mileage."

So in OP's case she should say "I'd be happy to babysit for you, however, when you get home after x time I am not comfortable taking the subway so I am unable to babysit unless you will be home before x time or if you can reimburse my cab fare if it is after x time."  What she shouldn't say/demand is "I'd be happy to babysit for you but in addition to my usual hourly rate you will have to pay my cab fare." [/quote]

Semantics and niceties. Call it what you will, either way, she is establishing her policies/boundaries. I think it is a matter of stating them, rather than waiting and hoping it happens , or asking. If it is a deal breaker, and it sounds like it is, she needs to communicate that. [/quote]

You can say it's semantics and niceties and pretend that doesn't matter but in real life it does matter.  It matters in all aspects of life how you phrase things, not just the bottom line of what you are trying to say.  No one really said she should wait and see what happens.  Some people said bring it up which is fine but it makes a difference how she says it.  You don't go through life demanding things and expect people to do what you want if you don't find a polite way to say it.[/quote]

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