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[quote=nannydebsays][quote=Anonymous][quote]OP, is the nanny who left the only nanny your older child has known? If so, have you managed the transition as gently and firmly as possible?

Anecdote: I left a family after 4 years to return to school. The parents handled things poorly, not telling the 6 yo and 3 yo until my last week that I was leaving. The kids didn't get to mourn, and didn't get the support they needed from their parents to work through their feelings. [bold] 6 years down the road, the then 12 yo was still asking me to come back to take care of them, and telling her now SAHM to go back to work because "Nanny takes better care of me than you do!"[/bold]

All that to say that this has to be managed in a way that allows your children to mourn their loss and still encourages them to welcome someone new into their lives. If you have had a nanny for a long time, there is an attachment and your kids need to have you help them manage the loss they are experiencing.

Once you start dealing with their loss, you can also start looking for a nanny who has come into a family and managed the transition from "old nanny" to "new nanny" successfully.

Be gentle with your kids as they mourn and be firm with them about a new nanny coming into their lives. They can learn to love a new nanny and manage the fact that they feel disloyal to the old nanny with your help.

Good luck! [/quote]

[b]I find this very hard to believe. Seriously? You want us to believe  that a 12 yr old has been begging for your return for six years because he thinks you are a better caretaker than his mother?

BS.

You're a fine nanny, deb, and you have a lot to offer other nannies here.

But don't overplay your hand.[/b][/quote]

You are free to believe me or not. The facts are as I described them. I do not know what went on within that family the 358 or so days each year I was NOT around after leaving, but what I witnessed was a child not getting supportive closure from her parents after I left and trying to get me to return to take care of her. I'm not stupid enough to start describing everything that happened in great detail, so do with my input what you will.[/quote]

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