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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How is it a red flag that a nanny wants to just hang out in the kitchen? She probably feels as a "live-in" that your home is now her home as well. Isn't that the concept of what a live-in means or am I missing something?

I didn't think being a live-in had strings attached. I mean if she had unruly company over, loud parties or was a very messy person then that would be very inconsiderate commonsense wise, right?

But c'mon. She is just using the space considerately it sounds. She is not disturbing anyone intentionally it sounds...She is just keeping to herself and minding her own business. Let her be. She certainly isn't disrupting your family by any measures.

I would let the poor girl alone.

Trust me...There are a million worse things you could complain about from a live-in nanny.

I am sure you heard about the live-in nanny from hell that made news nationally just a few months ago, right? Yeah. Thought so. Yikes![/quote]

Spending the whole day at the breakfast counter with a computer is hardly as innocent as you try to portray it - she could use the computer in her own room or go to a coffee shop.  It is not her home by any measure, it's her employers' home. Do you see hotel employees congretating in the lobby on their break time? [/quote]

Not the PP, but hotel employees typically go home after work... So, that scenario would actually work better if this were a live-out situation. And even if it were a live-out situation, it's not uncommon for nannies to hang out around the kitchen or living room during break. That wasn't the best example to use.

I'm under the impression that live-in nannies should be able to utilize such common areas like the kitchen, even on days off, so I do find this situation a little strange but everyone's different (and that's ok). OP, this is definitely bothering you beyond the point of brushing it off. Just talk to her. TBH she's likely in her comfort zone on weekends so your honesty could potentially make her feel very embarassed and unwelcomed. Personally, I'd be mortified at the idea of being intrusive. In fact, I think most people (maybe even you) would be mortified to learn they've been unintentionally intruding someone's privacy. Live-in situations can be touchy, especially if complaints are not as obvious as, say, uncleanliness or loud music. But, look, at the end of the day it's your home and while I don't necessarily agree with this issue being fair to her you need to feel comfortable in your own home while spending time with your kids. There's really no 100% win here, but just be sure to avoid this in the future. Good luck!
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