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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for all of the advice. Appreciate the constructive criticism. To answer a few questions, her room is actually rather large--a bedroom and sitting area-- and I certainly do not mind her making meals in the kitchen, it was more the spending the day on her computer at the breakfast counter that bothered me. She has wifi access in her room. I have had 4 live in nannies prior to her and just surprised in 12 years that I have never run in to this problem. [/quote]

You are going to have to bite the bullet and have this discussion, because it bothers you and your husband.  Doesn't matter if it would bother others, it bothers you.  And that isn't going to magically get any better over the next 12 loooong months.  I do think there is a chance she will decide to leave, because she wants to be able to leave her bedroom and sitting room and hang in the kitchen.  Another person might just think "ok, whatever' and go use her computer in her room, as long as you do NOT make her feel funny or weird if she is actually cooking and eating in the kitchen - she is not supposed to cook then take her food back to her room, right? that's not the way you made it sound, just that you don't want to have your nanny in your kitchen all day.  It feels like you have to entertain her, and it also feels like an invasion of your privacy.  And I get that, I do!

So if she changes, great (as long as there isn't any anger on either of your parts - but if you have a respectful discussion of different expectations, that shouldn't happen).
If she quits, or refuses to change, then you'll need to decide whether this is worth putting up with or terminating.  You can do that, as long as you give lots of notice, or severance if you don't want her working with your child during that notice period.

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