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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This conversation is very interesting, as we're considering inviting our nanny to join us in Hawaii in the spring. We will be there for a family wedding, along with our in laws, and we all want to spend time with the kids, so I worry there will not be enough "work" for our nanny to do. On the other hand, we will all be attending wedding events and will be out late in the evening and I'd rather have our nanny watch the kids than rely on the hotel babysitting service.  I'm also considering offering to take her 15 year old daughter as well, although maybe I'd offer to pay for the daughter's flight instead of paying her salary for the week (the flight would be more than her salary, anyway). The difference between a daughter and a husband is that her daughter has helped babysit our kids in th past and is very good with them. I would expect or want my nanny's husband to take care of my kids.

In my situation, I'm concerned that we'll be spending a lot of money for our nanny to join us and yet we won't really need her to nanny all that much.  I would consider it more of a gift to bring her on a really nice vacation.  But would a nanny not really see a vacation as a benefit, but a burden? [/quote]

As another poster said, she still needs to pay her bills, so offering to pay her daughter's airfare instead of a salary isn't worth it.  I also would not have the daughter come out unless you are willing to pay her expenses as well.  Unless you are willing to pay the daughter's expenses in exchange for her helping with the kids, it won't be worth it.  And besides, she is 15. She may get there and say to mom, I'm going to the beach, you watch the kids. Expectations and agreements need to be laid out in advance.

If you do decide to take the nanny, let her know upfront what your expectations of her are while you are out there. "You won't be working your regular hours, but these are the hours we would like for you to work instead. "  
 I had a family take me on trips that were mostly a vacation for me, but they did not want to leave the kids with a hotel babysitter.  I also don't know which island you will be going to or the ages of your children, but if you had younger children and you wanted to do a hike or something like that, you may want to leave them with your nanny. 
  And for the first couple of days out there, because of the time change, your kids will be up super early and so it might be nice to have nanny take the children for a bit while you sleep in or help you during the transition.  And take advantage of those days where they are up early and get out to see some of the sites. [/quote]

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