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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not fair to expect anyone to clean up your personal dishes.  She absolutely should do laundry though.[/quote]

I want to clear something up.  I don't expect nanny to clean up personal dishes.  But if I prepare food for DS prior to work and she also eats that food then I would consider it helpful to clean the dishes.  As an aside, what I make for DS in the mornings, is not dish intensive.  It is usually pasta, so all she would need to do is rinse the pot or put the pyrex in the dishwasher.  I'm not sure why people get so agressive here. [/quote]
It's because they're constantly being taken advantage of.[/quote]

I'd like to think I have not taken advantage of our nanny.  And I believe most of my friends are very fair.

We provided her with a genours Christmas bonus, pay her a competitive salary paid her for 3 weeks vacation plus the two + weeks we have taken on our own. We pay her via direct deposit, remembered her birthday, mother's day and other holidays.  I could go on but I have tried very hard to be a good employer.  Now I wonder if I've been too nice and accomodating. [/quote]

Most nannies in DC are treated exceptionally well and not taken advantage of.  I've seen more employers, especially first time moms, taken advantage of by nannies who try to convince them that if they love their child, they will pay the nanny well and expect very little from her.

OP, you need to sit down with your nanny for an annual review.  Talk about what she does well and explain that your needs have changed and now that the baby is a bit older, you need someone who can take on more chores, take pictures (provide a camera, of course), etc.  You do not need to pay her more because you are adding chores, although you might consider an annual raise to reward what she does do well.  The bottom line is that your needs have changed, so you need to change the job, and you are giving her a right of first refusal.  If she is miffed, she will move on and so will you.

Also, don't put too much stock in the fact that your baby seems to love the nanny.  The vast majority of babies love their nanny, whether she is good for them or not.  You need to take a long term view and figure out what is best for your family, because happy, less stressed parents make for a happy, less stressed baby.[/quote]

Does it seem right to you to both change the nature of the job, and to pile on a bunch of new work, without also changing the compensation? There is a reason employers don't go around doing this routinely. It loses you good employees. [b]Chances are that doing as you suggest WILL lose OP her nanny, and she needs to recognize and be prepared for that[/b]. Its not even really a maybe. If you change the job she signed up for, give her more work to do, and don't offer compensation for it, she has no reason to stay. [/quote]

Please reread the subject of this thread.  The OP is unhappy with the nanny's performance and wants to replace her.  I think if the nanny chooses to leave it will be a relief and will save the OP severance issues.[/quote]

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