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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you for your input 21:45. OP here. Can I ask you how you let your nanny go? Did you tell her why? Get in to details? Keep it vague? Make up an excuse? 
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I'm not who you're asking, but here's how I let my nanny go:

First, since there wasn't a major safety concern like driving drunk without the baby in a carseat I kept my old nanny until DH and I had found a new one we wanted to hire. We arranged for the new nanny to start on a Friday for half a day (she accepted the job and gave notice at her old position two weeks earlier). On Thursday both DH and I came home a half hour before the nanny was scheduled to go home. We basically said, "Gianna, it's clear that you care for Lucy, but you've repeatedly been late, ignored the schedule and our instructions even after we went over it initially and reminded you twice. So unfortunately today is going to be your last day. Could you please go get your key to the house?" Then when she gave it back we invited her to say goodbye to our daughter and we stayed in the room for that. We handed her a check paying her through that day, let her know her health insurance would run through the end of the month, and escorted her to the front door. Then DH promptly changed the alarm code.

The new nanny worked half a day the next day with me at home and half a day on Monday with DH home before going full time. I definitely would never make up excuses. I think the kindest and yet most reasonable thing you can do if you have to fire people is let them know why, in case there's hope they can change in the future. [/quote]

This is why my contract stipulates a written warning before termination unless, of course, it's for blatant cause (examples of which are summarized). Of course your nanny needs to be on time to work and needs to do their best to follow a schedule (by which I mean, attempting nap at 1p if that is the desired time but acknowledging you can't actually MAKE a child sleep if they aren't going to), but if there were concerns about the way I was handling getting the baby and toddler on the same nap schedule or something like that, I hope it would be formally addressed before I was escorted out the door. A conversation at the end of the day would not, to me, seem like a warning but part of our ongoing communication as we figure out the best routine for the kids together.

Hopefully, PP, you're just leaving out some of the more salacious details and your nanny really did deserve immediate termination. :)[/quote]

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