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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Babies can't be spoiled but they can be taught bad habits. Never allowing a child to problem solve or self soothe teaches them they are only safe/secure/loved when they are in your arms. It sounds counter intuitive but a securely attached child should not need to be held constantly, that is a sign of an insecure attachment. Separation anxiety is entirely normal at her age, but your description sounds like there is something more going on.

Ask MB how you two can lovingly and respectfully teach DC that she is safe/secure/loved even when she is not being held.[/quote]

Maybe she feels insecure because some stranger not her mother is not taking care of her.

Your job is to take care of the baby, is it not?  Isn't holding her part of the job?  What else do you want to do?[/quote]

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My job is to care for the baby, correct. No good comes from a baby who is completely unable to self soothe or be detached from a caregiver. I cannot go to the bathroom without her crying and screaming at the top of her lungs. I cannot make bottles without her wailing. As for the other poster, I tried CIO for exactly one minute. I put her in her crib and stood outside the door for 60 seconds. She screamed the whole time so I came back in and picked her up. 20 mins later I tried again. I put her down and left her for one minute. MB said, that she would like to have her trained soon because we are all tired of holding her for the duration of her naps.[/quote]

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