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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, do the hard work that you don't want to do. Write the last nanny a letter of apology, and ask for forgiveness. Be honest and tell her your child is deeply missing her.

Ask the former nanny to please come and visit your child. Maybe ask new nanny if she'd like to take your child out to lunch to meet up with former nanny. Ask former nanny what she'd feel most comfortable with.

OP, please do this for your OWN child 
who is grieving serious loss. PLEASE.

The therapy bills and mental instability down the road, 
will be much more costly to you, 
if you choose not to.
I guarantee it.

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this is insane, why are we assuming the OP did something heinous to her nanny and she needs to beg forgiveness? you people are crazy [/quote]
Are you the OP, or just another entitled parent?[/quote]

I'm the OP (not the PP you quoted though) and this thread has gotten totally out of hand.  I didn't include the reasons the nanny left in the thread because it really has nothing to do with my question and I was trying to be nice and respectful of the last nanny who was good to my children.  To be clear though her leaving had NOTHING to do with me.  She had children of her own and decided a full time job was not for her and told me to look for someone else.  In an effort to keep her I let her bring her 4 year old with her and even offered her more money.  When she started bringing her own DC she started coming late which made me late for work.  There was also 1 day a week (every week) that she told me she could no longer work because she wanted to volunteer at her older DCs school.  After looking for quite a while for someone new I finally found someone and gave old nanny notice.  I was nothing but kind to her, asking her how much time she wanted to find a new job before the new nanny started.  She wanted 3 weeks and that's what I gave her.  The day after I gave her notice she called me crying because she said she was going to miss the children so much and maybe she could actually work all the days I needed her etc.  At that point I had already hired the new nanny who had then turned down other job offers.  I didn't think it was fair to the new nanny to take away the offer and I wasn't convinced the old nanny could really make it work.  Maybe the old nanny was annoyed that I didn't take her back, maybe she just thought it would be better for herself to have a clean break.  I don't know why she didn't want to have contact with us anymore but I have no intention of grovelling to her to keep her in my DCs life.  I'm sorry that my DC misses her and that's why I asked for advice for what to say.  Let's not over-react though.  I know she will be just fine and will forget about her soon enough.  There will be no "therapy bills and mental instability" because of this.[/quote]
How long did you have her, and how many hours a week?[/quote]

We had her for 9 months.  Originally 42 hrs/week and she got OT for the 2 hours but when she cut out a day she went down to 35 hours a week.[/quote]

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