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[quote=Anonymous]I This would be a non-starter for me.

I would insist on speaking with the prior employer but tell the nanny that I will use my own judgment in weighing whatever the prior employer says in light of nanny's other great references.  My conversation with the prior employer might make it clear that the employer is unhinged or is simply angry about the nanny quitting, in which case I would totally disregard her perspective.  On the other hand, the prior employer may valid, concrete grievances or reveal a true deal-breaker, such as abuse or neglect of a child or gross breach of trust.

The reality is that many parents don't really know how good their nanny is because they are not on site to supervise how she spends her work hours.  It is possible that the most recent employer simply saw something bad in her that no one else had seen.  After all, look how many people were duped by Bernie Madoff, in part because others they knew seemed happy with him and in spite of at least one whistle-blower (who was dismissed as a crazy person) trying to convince the SEC for years that Madoff was a criminal.

At the end of the day, I trust my own judgment and ability to sift through conflicting references far more than I would trust a nanny who thinks it is okay to prevent me from hearing both sides of the story so I can draw my own conclusions.  Remember, your children's safety and well-being are at stake.[/quote]

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