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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. I talked to her. She explains it as two incidents about 6 months apart, drunken shouting and "being obnoxious", and that she called police because she did not want him to drive. She also told me he's sober now, and that what occurred happened when he was drinking heavily.  She believes it's in the past. I asked how frequently this had occurred, and she said only the two occasions, but that "he's fine now" and it's no longer an issue.

This makes me wonder what would have happened if my mom had ever called the local sheriff back in the day when my dad was surely driving drunk on a regular basis. She wouldn't have tried to take his keys or keep him from driving. She would have just hoped he didn't kill himself or anyone else.

So I'm not quite sure what to think. She seems absolutely fantastic and her references even from the "problematic" time frame are really, really good. I feel on one hand like I should take the most cautious route and move on to someone else, but at the same time I don't know that it's fair or right for me to pass her over because of bad, but not ongoing, past behavior of her husband.

I also think about the fact that many of the women I know could be in the same situation and I wouldn't know it unless they happened to call the cops one night.[/quote]

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