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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you are willing to give her an offer otherwise, then I would suggest a direct conversation. It is heartbreaking to think she could be turned away for being a victim.

I am a nanny and a sexual abuse survivor. I have never shared my past with an employer. I am aware that many many child abusers were themselves abused as children. However, I volunteer for many organizations that work on sex abuse issues and have even testified on legislation to protect women and children. I know child safety guidelines inside and out, my charge will never be hurt on my watch. Going through trauma has made me  better caregiver. I don't think you can assume she would put your children in harms way.[/quote]

you are not getting the issue here. the problem is not the nanny, is the violent husband. while she would not hurt the kids, a husband with multiple arrests for domestic violence may try to hurt her where she works, while she is with the kids. she is a victim, and certainly is sad that she can loose on a job offer because of her husband behavior. but if I was the OP, I would never hire her. unfortunately OP's responsibility is making sure her kids are safe and are not exposed to the risk of becoming collateral victims of domestic violence in somebody else's home. a husband who has not one, but multiple arrests for domestic violence is a non starter. a domestic abuse situation may be very dangerous, especially when the victim tries to leave. while as a woman I would try to help the nanny as much as I can, I would never put my kids in a situation that is potentially so risky.  [/quote]

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