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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For some reason many of the MB/DBs here forget that nannies don't have colleagues. We have days where, in a 10 hour span, you are literally the only adult we will interact with. For some, it is really hard not to want to share (or over-share as the case may be) at the end of our day.

Most of you go to your offices and have people who ask how your day is/cold is feeling/gripe about the broken whatever in the office to you...you know, normal, adult conversation. And yes, I am sure there is also an office busy body who is in everyone's business and over-sharing theirs. This does not make anyone involved bad at their job or significantly less professional, just a bit more annoying when it is in excess.

Nannies are human beings too, with ranges of personalities and needs for interaction. I fail to see why telling your employer/only colleague/parent of the children that you spend the entire day caring for that you have a headache or your that child has a cold is unacceptable and leads to being deemed "unprofessional". 
If you don't want to interact personally with another adult, do not invite one into your home 5 days a week. [/quote]

I completely agree, and I'm the MB who said I wish my nanny had better boundaries.

I'm not talking about needing/wanting some adult contact.  I'm talking about not telling me graphic details of your GI distress last night versus the night before,  and your prolapsed uterus (and insistence on not doing what you've been medically advised to do).  I'm talking about letting me walk in the door and say hello to my children before you drown me in complaints about your landlord's dog's housebreaking problems, and your unfavorable opinion of the new girlfriend of the widowed father whose kids you nannied previously.

Our nanny is extraordinary with kids.  Extraordinary, experienced, endlessly patient, loving, safe, reliable, and on and on...   But she's not so good in the adult world.  And despite the conversations we regularly have to touch base, or reestablish some boundaries, she routinely slips back.  It's a price I'm willing to pay for the excellent care my kids get and the peace of mind I have when I'm not home, but better boundaries would be lovely.[/quote]
You are one smart Mom, and I applaud you for that. None of us does everything perfectly right, and your priorities are exactly where they should be, getting (and keeping!) the best possible substitute childcare, during your absence. Kudos to you.[/quote]

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