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[quote=Anonymous][quote=nannydebsays]OP, just a thought. Have your older children had a nanny before? is this new nanny an immediate replacement of a previous nanny?

If so, then your older kids could be acting out a little resistance to the new nanny while you aren't there to offer reassurance.

Unless your nanny cam has audio recording capabilities and you hear nanny telling your older kids to leave her alone with baby and go play by themselves, I would be reluctant to judge that she was uninterested in the older kids.

Maybe she tried to engage them and was rebuffed. maybe she should have tried harder, but she decided to give them their space. My point is that unless you know what all parties said, you don't know what really happened.

Keep an eye on things, but don't leap to conclusions. New nannies take time to get in the groove with kids, and kids can be slow to warm up if a much loved nanny has been replaced.[/quote]

Nannydeb, thanks for this advice.  I agree that it does take time for a new nanny to get into the groove.  I feel like things got blown a little out of proportion here.  My original post was just because I was curious how others would handle that difficult situation.  Even if every person had said the nanny was totally wrong I still planned to give her some time to figure things out.  When I mentioned that we had cameras I was told (by 1 poster) that I was using them inappropriately etc which is what led to my post about how she is not engaging the children.  Again, I still intend to give her some time to figure things out and see how it goes.  I will say, the cameras do have audio so I know that the nanny isn't telling them to go play by themselves but also that they aren't rebuffing her.  They are trying to engage her and while she isn't ignoring them she responds and then goes right back to the baby.  I'm glad she is good with the baby, in the fall both older DCs will be in school half days and she will mostly be with just the baby, but I wish she would interact and play more with the older ones too.  Right now my 2y/o DD is lying on the sofa playing with her cup of milk while the nanny is sitting on the floor playing with the baby and it just makes me sad for the older one because this has been the routine all day.  I have not once seen her pick up a toy or a book or do anything with the older children unless they need something.  I will give her some time though to figure things out.[/quote]

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