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[quote=nannydebsays][quote=Anonymous]Hi all. After reading some recent threads, I'm wondering if we are setting ourselves up for a problem.   I'm a FTM to a 2 month old.  Her nanny has been with is for a month.   During this stage, I've let her run errands, meet friends for lunch, etc as DD is a great Napper in her stroller and at 2 months, other than eating, sleeping, diaper changes, tummy time, and engaging with her, there isn't a whole lot to do.   I trust her nanny has good judgement and when she says she doesn't take DD around sick people or crowded areas, I believe her.

When we hired her, we said we'd redo the contract when DS was around 6 months because activities would be changing and commitments from the nanny would be changing (ie making food for baby, taking her to more scheduled activities, etc).

However, after reading some posts from MBs saying they'd never let their kids nanny run personal errands or meet up with nanny friends with a newborn, I'm wondering if what we are doing isn't the norm and we are going to be in for a big problem as DD gets older.

Should we talk with her again about what future expectations are going to be?  [/quote]

OP, I think you need to think a bit about how you envision a "perfect week" for your daughter and her nanny. Do you see your daughter napping as exclusively as possible in her crib, or are you fine with naps "on the go"? Do you think nanny's errands will be an integral part of the day, or do you see your daughter's schedule and needs as the more important part of the day? Do you recognize that your nanny works long hours (if that is indeed the case) and feel fine with her doing some errands while working because she can't get them done otherwise?

As a nanny, my perspective is that baby's needs come first, mine second. I don't do my grocery shopping while I work, but I do stop at the bank, or get gas, or grab something at Starbucks when we are heading to an activity for my charge(s). If my employers want naps to be at home, that's where they are taken. If I've been asked to take kids to music class, I don't try and fit in errands before and after, simply because, as a PP said, there isn't enough time in the day.

If you are happy with the current situation, and your nanny is experienced enough to know things will change soon, then I think all is well. If you aren't happy with the current status quo, make changes now, rather than waiting for nanny's habits to really settle into place.[/quote]

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