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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just as many nannies have said they wouldn't sit again for a family that cancelled on them, if someone cancelled on a job that I had said was really important to me and they didn't offer me any reason or apology, I would have no hesitation in not using them again, particularly if the job I needed them for was really important.  Similarly, if you as a nanny have a job lined up and then someone cancels on you and doesn't pay you anyway, many nanny posters have said they wouldn't accept jobs from that person again.

It seems we're all on the same page, essentially.  I really don't get what everyone was arguing about on that thread.  [/quote]

I have been reading the nanny forums for almost two years and I have never, EVER seen a nanny say she wouldn't babysit for a family that cancelled on her two weeks in advance. Day before or of without paying? Yes. Within a week? I've seen nannies discuss the circumstances under which that would be acceptable or not. But never, EVER have I seen any nanny complain about two weeks notice canceling a babysitting gig.

Because that would be ridiculous.

As you and OP both know  I think.[/quote]

Well like I said, if a sitter cancelled on me AND DIDN'T OFFER ME ANY REASON OR APOLOGY, then I wouldn't use her again.  The main key there is, of course, if you have a trusted sitter that cancels two weeks in advance and sincerely apologizes, then no worries.  If someone flippantly cancels on you, particularly if they have a history of it, then why are we arguing that the OP should get over it?  There have been a ton of posts about how sitter jobs are a dime a dozen and that nannies have no qualms about writing off anyone that wasn't working for them.  So yeah, I think that many nannies would be irritated if they had held two days for an employer and then the employer called two weeks before and flippantly cancelled with no reason and no payment, and would probably not line up to work with that family again.   I really don't think I'm saying anything groundbreaking here.  Again, in summary, if you cancel on people, anyone - MBs, nannies, friends, coworkers - don't count on them thinking you're reliable.[/quote]

Expecting an apology is a given. Expecting a reason - with this much notice - is entitled. I had to cancel a slew of babysitting gigs when I found out I had a brain tumor and needed those evenings free to get everything in order at home before undergoing surgery, but I only explained my reason to the families I am closest to - the others don't need to know my personal medical journey. It's important to remember that you never know what is going on behind the scenes. I don't really believe people jump to conclusions in life as quickly as they do on here because in my personal experience everyone was very understanding (and have contacted me again for date nights) which is a great comfort when reading these boards. So many people make such declarative, black and white judgment calls when we all know real life is messy and muddled. [/quote]

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