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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, the bottom line is that you just screwed yourself out of a reference.  If you were at all experience in this field, then you would know that 1) August is a tough time to start a new position and 2) no one is going to be looking for a nanny to starting August right now.  When they told you that they plan to keep you until August but then would be letting you go, it is understandable that you may have been concerned about finding a new position at that time of year. If that were the case, the professional thing to do would have been to either tell them immediately that you are not comfortable waiting until August and arrange to work until the end of the school year instead, or negotiate a bonus if you stay through the end of August.   If your work history and other qualifications are such that you feel confident that you could get a new position at any time of year, then the professional thing to do would be to start looking for a new position eight weeks before this position ended.

While I obviously agree that your MB should have handled her frustration better, her frustration is justified.  You verbally agreed to stay until August, but started looking at jobs well before August start dates would be available.  Then, despite the fact that they went out of their way to give you ample notice so that you could lineup another job, you gave them the bare minimum of notice after (again) having verbally committed to be there until August.  I think it is very understandable that your boss feel that you lied to her and did the bare minimum according to your contract when she had gone out of her way to be considerate towards you.

I hope that you have many many years of nanny experience, because otherwise the lost reference from this employer is going to make it much harder for you to find a good job next time around.[/quote]

OP here. I am not at all worried about a reference from this MB. I had already gotten a letter of recommendation from her when I interviewed in April for a friend of hers looking for a nanny but ended up turning that job down. The long and the short of it is I gave the notice time she asked for, and while I feel bad I won't see my charges anymore, I don't feel bad about leaving. This is the same MB who I posted about previously who paid me 120$ for 96hrs of work because my fee "wasn't in their budget".
I feel zero loyalty to this family. 
 [/quote]

MB here. I would never accept a reference letter if I couldn't call the person to follow up.  Providing a letter in place of a number is a red flag that the former MB is going to tell me something you don't want me to hear.  I don't know anyone else who would accept just a letter either.  Sorry.[/quote]

A longtime nanny will likely have plenty of glowing, professional references.
One disgruntled ex-employer is hardly going to keep a nanny from finding a good job.
Having a reference letter from this woman will prove that she was happy up until the end of her job.
OP can prove that her job performance wasn't an issue.  The MB's piss poor attitude is.[/quote]

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