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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MB here, and also someone who employs/hires/supervises people in my 9-5 job.

You always need to put your own best interests first.  No employer can/should expect an employee to sacrifice themselves for someone else's best interest.  People get better offers and leave all the time - that's how the world works.

As an employer, if I had hired you away from a prior position before that family was ready to lose you I would not have told you this far in advance that your position with us would be ending.  Your employer took a risk in giving you this much notice, and they probably are regretting that decision.

I don't think nanny positions are ones where you search for a job that isn't starting (or for which you're not available) until 3 or 4 months from now - the lead time is shorter, families want more immediate start dates, and tons of lead time on open positions does not seem to be the norm.

So, my assumptions/two cents re your particular situation is that you sound experienced enough to know that if you started a job search in April for positions not beginning until August, that wasn't the likeliest outcome.

I can't really fault you for looking out for yourself - as I said at the start.  But I do feel for your current family - who probably felt they were acting in good faith when being extremely upfront with you about the job duration, and now having to pay the price.

I don't think you were especially generous with the notice period either.  You could have given them 3 or 4 weeks or made some effort to acknowledge that you were leaving significantly earlier than you know they had planned.

So your MB's behavior is wrong.  But can you honestly say you expected her to be happy for you?   I'm not impressed with your behavior either frankly, and if I were interviewing you, and knew your history of job transition, I would never give you more than a month's notice that the job was ending.

I do believe in some level of karma and "you reap what you sow".  So [b]if/when your new family only gives you two weeks notice that they won't need you any longer that will be the price that you pay for making it clear that you will not stay in a position any longer than works for you[/b].

OP again. You make some valid points and[b] I agree that karma does have her way eventually[/b]. However, I was just hired Sunday and gave notice Monday. My contract says 2 weeks and that's what I gave. I'm not in DC so maybe it's different there, but here in my area of NC, there are many families looking now for fall care.[/quote][/quote]

Honey, PP meant karma will get YOU. Not your boss, YOU. [/quote]

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