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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have employed a nanny since last fall for my infant. She gets paid on the books (now) and is putting in some overtime as I travel. For the majority of the last several months, I have been WFH. There have been weeks that I care more for the baby during the day - because I want to, snow days, etc. It's my baby, so of course it's not generally a problem. 
I was also careful not to task her with responsibilities outside of her nanny role. (She washes his bottles, loads her and his dishes in the dishwasher, cleans toys, but no laundry or any other type of cleaning). I have two cameras - not hidden, set up in the house. I see her playing games/texting a fair amount when the kid is awake. I'm not looking for a french immersion program for my baby or anything, but I'd like to see some structured play, reading and daily walks (weather permitting). Is that too much to ask? I try to manager her like I manage other adults in the workplace (though I know it's not exactly the same) but what I see is promises and head-nodding, but not a lot of follow through/ consistency. This past week I asked for a summary of activities and schedule, since I'm not there. I got it twice - then nothing. And she never writes anything down (which is a personal pet peeve). I'm reluctant to be too adversarial with her. She's pretty sensitive and I can be a bit harsh when annoyed, so I've been hanging back while borderline seething.

Any suggestions or sage advice to get her on a reasonable track and schedule with the baby?[/quote]

How clear have you been when you ask her to do something?  In other words, when you wanted her to keep track of the schedule/activities did you say "If you could keep track of what you are doing with DC this week that would be helpful" or did you say "here is a log I'd like you to use to write down each activity and when DC eats/sleeps etc."  I think you need to sit down and have a polite but clear discussion with her of exactly what you would like.  If you continue to quietly seethe you're not helping her do what you want and you are just going to get more annoyed until you explode.  Tell her some things you like about how she is/what she does with DC and then tell her the areas you'd like to see some improvement. Then see if she can improve.  If not, you may need to start considering someone else.  Playing games/texting while she is supposed to be playing with DC is presumably not what you are paying her for.[/quote]

+1 to above PP

I would sit down and have a review with her where you highlight the things she does well and discuss areas where you would like to see improvement. I also suggest implementing a nanny log where she can record how her day with your child is going. Mine includes meals (time, what and how much baby ate), diaper changes (time, pee/poop, anything abnormal), nap times, and activities. Its a great way that MB, DB & I stay on the same page.[/quote]

I think you have to hire a illegal nanny,their do everything like slave,if you don't trust her live this poor nanny alone,why did you put camera? I think you make her so miserable...

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