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[quote=Anonymous]This is the OP--thanks for the feedback everyone. I was hoping someone had a similar experience they could share, but it's still helpful to hear suggestions of potential pitfalls. To be clear: we will discuss this with my sister extensively and would not under any circumstances pressure her to say yes if she did not express 100% support for the idea and willingness to do whatever preparation we felt necessary. Character-wise, I don't anticipate any major issues: she is young but mature and responsible. Definitely sheltered, but not at all someone I would expect to go crazy once she's out of my parents' house.

I definitely understand the potential problems with employing a relative, especially re: following rules. In this case, it might be less of an issue because there is a large age gap between us (sister is in high school, I'm in my early 30s) so the boss/employee dynamic might not be as weird as it could be if we were closer in age. Still something to consider, I agree.

To the PP asking about college: I understand where you're coming from, but even as a huge supporter of traditional four-year college education, I don't see college as one size fits all. My sister has frequently indicated that she does not want to go to college right away and that she wants a break from school to figure out what to do with her life. If she were to change her mind and decide to go, great, I'd support that. But as things stand now, I think pushing her to go to college when she isn't interested would not be productive and I disagree very strongly with the idea that one year off will completely derail her future career or put her behind her peers. Also, she's a talented artist and would have more opportunities to develop her skills living with us in the city (taking classes, etc) than she does at home.

To the PP who asked about my niece: honestly I have already decided against the idea. My niece is a sweet and bright young woman who has been dealt a tough hand in life and is struggling to establish herself as an adult (hasn't been able to finish college, dealing with depression, etc). My husband would love for her to stay with us temporarily to help her see find more career opportunities and maybe gain a little more financial stability. She has a good personality for a nanny (very maternal), but doesn't seem to cope well with even normal stress, such as working while in school. Maybe down the road, I could see inviting her to be a part-time mother's helper when our child is a little older. But I think infant care is not a good fit right now.[/quote]

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