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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sure, we all want Alice, but no one here can find that dear sweet lady who does it all, -with a smile![/quote]

There is a whole range of providers between the warm-body, DCUM, nanny-princess types and Alice.  Everyone I know, including myself, who has kept a nanny for more than a year or two has found someone who goes well beyond basic child-minding and doesn't trumpet self-made rules about what nannies do and don't do.  The new parents who ended up with someone who did nothing of value while the kids napped all canned the nanny after a year or two, sometimes lying about plans to put the children in daycare or have the mother SAHM.[/quote]
Some parents (not you), feel that excellent childcare is something of "value". Obviously, they are the ones who respect childcare as a "real" job. You, on the other hand, seem to see your child unworthy of the full attention of a professional. Now, before you throw another toddler temper tantrum, that doesn't mean nanny "can't" do anything else.

It does mean, that I as an adult woman, shall determine what else I shall do. Now, again, before you get bent out of shape, that's just how I operate. You'd be wasting your money on a professional, so don't bother. You're the type who wants a "nanny" to just obey your random orders.

Btw, you do know, that's not a nanny, don't you?[/quote]
No adult person, including the POTUS, determines what they do on someone else's time and dime.  You may have ideas about what you'd like to do, but if your employer disagrees, you are not a match.  It's not because they've never dealt with a professional nanny before, it's not because they don't respect childcare, it's because you don't have a meeting of the minds. You aren't the maker of rules in nanny kingdom, you're just one service provider on a very plentiful market.  There may very well be distinctions between nannies and non-nannies, but not honoring parental rules isn't one of them.[/quote]
Just for your little feeble-minded brain, I'll give you one little example how a professional would NEVER blindly obey parental requests. An MB told me one day, to "spank" her child if he did certain behaviors. Just like you, the woman actually had total expectation that I as the "nanny", should, and would, follow her instructions. And guess what?! She was every bit as crazy as you are, for such utter stupidity. Even though she was the high-powered "educated" lawyer, she was completely clueless and ignorant, as to how to be a good parent. And even more stupid to think she could tell an experienced and trained professional, how to do her job. Now, you may have thoughts to share, but if we're not on the same page about the basics, I won't waste my time on you, unless I'm convinced you want to learn about your child's most essential needs. Of course, if a parental request makes no difference to the child or to me, I am inclined to be accommodating, but never to the detriment of the child. Never, Never, Never. No. Matter. What.   Sorry.[/quote]
And how is it that you, an epitome of nanny perfection, a jewel among dung, a shining beacon of marypoppingsness, found yourself working for such an utterly clueless MB who was evidently so far from being on the same page with your august views? Did you follow your own advice of checking and re-checking references, which you no doubt dispense with a generous hand? Did you have any discussion at all, prior to commencing your employment, on what the person who signs your checks thinks ought to be done with her child? Or did you simply start the job with an expectation that she will do as told?

I will leave you with this parting thought, o the unwise one: you are not an expert on every child's needs. You don't know what request makes a difference to a particular child. You don't know what is and is not to the detriment of a particular child - certainly not better than their parent.

PS: How were you trained again? What exactly are your credentials, beyond Internet access?[/quote]

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