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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm with ya too OP.

Of course there are a lot of hard working parents out there who do put in the time and effort to effectively and appropriately raise and discipline their children.

However, there's also a number of parents, I'd say the majority in this day and age, who let their children do as they please to avoid tantrums or really dealing with their children. Parents who continue to use worn out methods like "time out" or "privilege loss" that they know don't work... at the very least for their kid. I'd say a lot has to do with the increase in teen pregnancies and, often in conjunction with this, having children out of wedlock.

My older cousin decided to knock up a girl when he was 20. Now he has a 5 year old (my awesome lil cousin). However, both parents spoil her. Hell, she had her own iPad once it came out. I haven't even purchased one yet, lol. And I really hate how they let her watch any and every thing on it, specifically music videos like Nicki Minaj with cursing and inappropriate content over all. But that's kind of another matter.... she's well behaved with me! ;)

When I was a kid, and I didn't want to eat something for dinner... it was there again for breakfast... and lunch... and dinner again, so on and so forth, until I finally ate it. At the very least my mom did warm it up for me each time, lol

And sure, I got my ass whooped when I did stupid shit like jump off furniture, write on walls, play around during nap time, etc... but looking back now, I'd of beat my ass too for all the dumb stuff I intentionally did

At the very least I'm no spoiled, entitled, 23 year old. Just the opposite and, whether or not my parents could have or should have used another disciplinary tactic has no bearing on me today, At least they took the time to do it one way or the other, and I appreciate that.

Lord help me had I turned out to be like some of the kids I grew up with in school or see these days, and thank goodness I don't have to deal with any such spoiled little brats. :D[/quote]

Actually, the way your parents disciplined you has a huge impact on how you are today. They showed how not to be patient and use proper discipline methods. They taught you that its easier to spank a child than to take the time to figure out what is really the issue and how to address it properly. They taught you that violence against a child is okay. 95% of the time a child's negative behavior is directly related to a stress induced situation that the parents or caregiver has placed the child in. Young children act out for a reason and its your job as a parent or caregiver to figure out what is wrong. The fact that you are 23 and think this way worries me very much. You are obviously not at the maturity level or have the knowledge to deal with children effectively. Educate yourself.

By the way, I was raised the same way the difference is I knew my parents were assholes and quickly learned appropriate ways to handle situations, while you just try to emulate yours. [/quote]

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