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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hear ya OP. High five.

I was raised the same way.

If I fussed over what my parents fed me, then too bad, I guess I didn't get any dinner that night.

If a kid these days fussed over his plate, his parents just bribe him w/ice cream "later on" or a new toy or something to get him to eat "just one bite" of his peas. So lame.

I think most parents work these days and suffer from working parents guilt. I also think they are tired from a day of work and just don't care about effective parenting. They prefer to take the easy way out and bribe their child vs. deal w/an emotional meltdown.

Now a days, everything that my parents did to discipline me is considered child abuse. Ha!! Now a days, kids get their I~pads, cell phones, computers, etc. taken away for bad behavior.

Guess what everyone? 
When I was a kid, none of that existed!!!

By the way, I am 44. Not ancient by any standards.[/quote]

I agree that many parents just give in too easily and it sets up really bad habits in their children but lets not generalize about all parents.  I know plenty of parents (myself included) who don't believe in that but also don't believe in abusive discipline either.  When I was growing up (I'm about your age, so same era) nothing my parents did for discipline would have come close to child abuse.  That's just another lazy way of disciplining and teaching your children.

My children don't get to dictate what they will and won't eat for dinner, we don't bribe with ice cream to get them to eat but we worked hard when they were babies to introduce all sorts of different foods (not chicken nuggets) so now they will eat almost anything. My children don't have ipads, cell phones or their own computer (we share 1 family computer).  Between my husband and I we also have a family rule - no cell phones/electronics during family time - so we are teaching by example that way.  We don't have to resort to scare tactics, we don't yell at the children and we have 3 very well behaved children.  When we go places in public mine are not the ones running around screaming.  On airplanes we are the ones who are told at the end of the flight how good our children are.

My point is I agree that giving in to what your child wants is a lazy approach to parenting but you don't have to resort to spanking are other "child abuse" to have well behaved children either.[/quote]

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