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[quote=Anonymous][quote]OP here.

1) I know they are doing well, it's not just assuming they are but this is not the point here because I would have paid for my flight + bedroom because I am so eager to explore, it was an opportunity to do it And I am not the kind of person that wants a free vacation doing nothing, I wouldn't have expected them to pay for me at all.

2) The father told me I can't say "no" to his kid and that he has to learn to make his own choices. I don't see why I would lie about that ? But this is against my principles.
I'm very easy-going with him, giving him opportunities to make choices when appropriate but there are times when it's impossible because of safety or just because I feel he HAS to be polite. The father actually laughed when I told him he was kicking me, saying he was just testing me to see how I would react ... It had taken me days to talk to him about it because I didn't know how to address the problem. And the mom is barely home nor talking to me much.
I don't see what this has to do with my maturity level ...

3) I believed them when they said they'd treat me as a member of the family. When I accepted them on the phone, I received a few days later a fedex package with a letter from them, postcards, a Phily map and pictures of their son. The letter said they wanted me to feel at home, that I'd be welcome to join them when they're out doing activities ...
I get there, we're trying to adjust for the first few weeks and then they tell me they're traveling to Mexico for a week with about 2 weeks notice and that I'm not going, and staying home to open and shut some door.

4) I will talk to my LLC on Monday. I'm glad I could have some advice here. I'll let you know what happens [/quote]

Well, OP, your options are pretty clear.

1. Buy your own ticket to explore wherever you want when your week off comes. If you didn't expect them to pay for anything and you didn't expect to attend the wedding and you didn't expect not to work, what are you complaining about?

2. A seven year old who kicks and bites is displaying unusual behavior and if this is real, you need to rematch (I'm the PP who doesn't believe your post is real, BTW). This child has serious needs that are not being met. A seven year old is a second grader.

3. It sounds like they are treating you as a member of the family, except for the part that they didn't take you to a family wedding in Mexico, even though you said you don't mind that they didn't pay to take you or anything. So, if you don't care that they didn't pay, what's the problem? Mexico will be there your whole year here. You can buy a ticket, rent a room, and explore (all the things you want to do) on your vacation week.

4. Yes, discuss this with your LLC. You might need a rematch.

5. What country did you say you were from again, OP? How long have you been in the US? [/quote]

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