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[quote=Anonymous]Wow! Everyone is so hostile on here. Some parent posters on here need to remember your nanny is a VERY important person in your child's life. The first several years in life shape the person you become. Your nanny is shaping that person almost as much as you are. There shouldnt be an argument of who is more "influential" or "important." Instead of seeing your child's relationship with their nanny as a threat to your own, grow the hell up and embrace that your child has another set of loving arms to help her grow into a healthy human being! You should be partners...

OP, I feel your pain. Depending on how long you are with the children, you do most certainly start to feel like a third parent. In fact, you may spend as much time with their children as they do. It is completely normal and healthy to become attached with them, and they SHOULD be attached to you. You wouldn't be doing your job if they were not.

Being a nanny is extremely emotionally draining. No one mentions that when you start. You love these children as your own, yet you have no rights to them. Of course not! They're not your children. BUT, sometimes it is easy to forget that. It doesn't mean you're crazy! Perhaps nannying just is not the right job for you. It is not healthy to constantly put yourself under so much stress.

I have been a nanny for several years. I currently live in with a single father with two kids. Because there is no mother in the picture, I often feel as if I am the second parent. It is extremely hard to create a balance and keep your emotions in check.  I struggle with it every day as well. I have two masters, one in child development. I am not some psycho that needs to see a therapist, and I doubt you are either : ). I cry when I think of leaving them too. I love them very much, but I think that is a good thing.

Just try to keep some perspective. I know it's hard, but at the end of the day, you DO know you will have to leave them some day.

DO what is best for YOU![/quote]

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