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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Congratulations OP!

I'm an MB.  Here are my two cents:

- give yourself some time - you don't need to say or do anything right now except get safely into the second trimester
- start thinking about what you want to do.  Do you want to stay home with your baby (can you afford to)?  Do you want to look for a position where you can bring your baby with you to work?  Would you want to provide childcare in your home?  etc...
- separately, assess how this current position is turning out - do you like/enjoy working for this family?  How is your relationship with the parents?  How do your nannying/parenting instincts mesh with theirs?  How flexible/relaxed are they as parents and bosses?

Basically give yourself some time to figure out what will be best for you and your growing family.  Then, in a few weeks (when it will start becoming obvious anyway) talk with your employers.  If you worked for me I would want to know that you didn't take the job under false pretenses (you didn't know you were pregnant when I hired you) and I would want to know what your plans are about how long you can/want to work and what you plan/want to do after the baby is born.

Obviously your employers will need to figure out what to do - and this will be upsetting and disruptive to them.  They won't know (nor might you) how you will fare during the pregnancy - will you need bedrest, how well will you be able to care for their kid(s), etc...   If they love you they may want to work with you to find a solution to keep you.  They may also decide they need to find someone else.  I think you should prepare for that possiblity (and try not to take it too personally if they go that route - this will be tough for them, regardless of how fantastic they may think you are.)

So take your time right now is my main advice.

Good luck![/quote]

This is excellent advice. You definitely don't have to tell them right away so take some time to figure out what it is that you want. Once you've figured that out I would discuss it with your nanny family. You certainly can wait until the second trimester but I wouldn't wait too much past that if you want to stay with this family. As an MB myself I'd be happy for my nanny if she was pregnant and if I loved the nanny I'd do whatever I could to try to make it work. If she waited a long time to tell me though I think that might bring up some trust issues on my part and might make it less likely for me to want to make it work. Only you know your nanny family but hopefully if you are open and honest with them they will do the same for you.

For what it's worth, I have 3 children and every time I was pregnant I told my job as soon as I was 12 weeks. Most recently we moved and I was applying for a new job when I found out I was pregnant with my 3rd and I told them at 8 weeks that I was pregnant BEFORE I got the job offer. I didn't want to start off on a bad note even though I had no obligation to tell them. They really appreciated my honesty and I got the job. [/quote]

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