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Google "attatchment disorder" people, 
and learn a little. Part of the treatment for this condition is to form STABLE relationships. Too bad so many of you MBs are in serious denial.[/quote]

LET IT GO.

If anyone here has attachment disorder, it's OP.[/quote]
Look it up first. She may be the one who doesn't have the disorder. I know. It hurts and I'm sorry. But still, the truth must be spoPken. OP has some real guts to speak about this here.[/quote]

Have YOU looked it up?  OP only worked 40hrs a week.  For a typical infant, sleeping 14-15 hrs a day, 10-12 of those at night, that means OP spent about 25 waking hours with that baby each week, while parents spent 40 each week.  For a toddler, who has dropped to one 2-hour nap each day, and 12 hours overnight, the nanny now spends about 30 hours a week, while mom and dad are spending 40.  By the time the child drops the nap, he or she is likely in part-time preschool, dropping the nanny back down to 28 hours per week, while mom and dad are up to 44 hours a week.  The nanny isn't even spending an EQUAL amount of time to the parents, let alone more.  The nanny is NOT the primary attachment figure.  Losing a secondary attachment figure is sad, and of course switching care more often than needed or more often than once per year of so is less than desirable, but the kid is not going to suffer from attachment disorder, because that's not how attachment disorder works.  If you would like to cite an actual source that says losing a secondary attachment figure is going to permantently harm a child, then be my guest.  If not, I encourage YOU to google "head-from-ass removal."

--A nanny who is tired of this bullshit[/quote]
Yes, I have studied it. And because you haven't, you can diagnose from afar. Thanks, Einstein.[/quote]

In other words, "No, I can't cite any evidence as to why a 40-hour-per week nanny would be a traumatic loss for a child, but I'm certainly not going to let that interfere with my crusade of nonsense or my baseless sense of superiority."[/quote]

+1!!![/quote]

LOL! +2![/quote]

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