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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP, I'm not defending failing to parent your kids. You missed my point though. If a nanny is with the kids five days a week for nine hours a day, I completely agree that that is the majority of the waking hours for those days. The parents are working for those nine hours too. Asduming you don't have kids yourself, then at the end of your nine hours, you get to go home and spend four of five hours on your own, sleep through the night, wake up and get showered and dressed on your own. On the weekends, you sleep until whenever you want, relax, run your errands, go out with friends if you want to. You show up Monday morning ready to focus on the kids and be a great, consistent nanny because you are refreshed, you've got all your errands done, you've had time for yourself.

A parent works nine hours just like you do. How do you feel at the end of your work day? Probably tired and like you need a break. Most people are not as good at their jobs, at being consistent, when they're tired. Parents come home feeling like that, but then they spend another three hours getting dinner on the table, playing with kids, giving them a bath, putting them to bed.  They probably get an hour truly to themselves if they go to bed at like 10pm.  On the weekends, they do your job. And not just from 8-5. They do it from 6:30am to 9pm both days. They do it while they're trying toget stuff done around the house and run errands. Again, they might get an hour or two to themselves on the weekend.

I'm not saying all this is impossible or complaining that I have it so hard. I love being a mom and I love working. I'm asking you to see how setting boundaries, being consistent, having them clean up every single time, etc is difficult when you're trying to do all that stuff on your second shift after you've already worked all day and when you get very little time to yourself.

I'm not saying we don't do it. I'm not saying let your kids run wild. I'm saying its difficult to do and asking nannies to have a little compassion if their MB doesn't run a ship quite as tight as you do. [/quote]

+1000000.  I could not agree with this more.  I'm not saying this excuses OP's MBs behavior or absolves her from being a parent to her children.  I work long hours and still come home and am consistent with my children and they are just as well behaved around me as they are with the nanny.  I try VERY hard to keep it that way because as a PP said, why have children if you aren't going to put the work in to raise them properly.  HOWEVER, unless they have children themselves, no nanny will every understand that being a nanny is NOT the same as being a parent.  Don't get me wrong, nannies work extremely hard and deserve every minute of their time off, but it is just that: time off.  When a nanny goes home her time is her own until she comes back to work.  She has weekends to feel refreshed and ready to start a new work week.  She can sleep in on weekends and relax and run errands without dragging children with her.  As a parent I haven't had a good night sleep in literally years.  Yes, it was my choice to have children and I wouldn't change that for the world but I do think nannies could try to be a little more compassionate to parents.  Being a nanny is not the same.[/quote]
Pity the live-in nanny who doesn't get to sleep in on the weekends. She may even get her wages reduced for that privilege if she's not so bright.[/quote]

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