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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think that's the problem - the other stuff.  For instance, if this were our au pair, we'd have no issue with this - we'd think it was a great idea.  Because she is a great au pair and responsible, does not let her social life interfere with work, and is very respectful of what we think is best for our kids, we know that if she suggested this activity with a friend, it would be because she truly thinks it would be a fun experience for the kids and educational.  EVEN if it would also be fun for her to see a friend during the work day.  Nothing wrong with killing two birds with one stone.  But if this were, say, a prior au pair who we had lots of issues with (and eventually rematched) - I'd feel the same as you, because I'd know the au pair wasn't necessarily planning that activity with my children's best interests in mind.[/quote]

Thanks for understanding, PP.  I think you're right unfortunately, and this is indicative of our entire year - every week or two, there's a little issue that pops up that could go either way and I just have this nagging feeling that she's not thinking with the kids' best interests in mind.  How far in did you rematch?[/quote]

I'm sorry, I went out of town and didn't check back on this post!  With that AP, we rematched after four months.  We should have done it much sooner, but we were newbies and had newbie guilt that we should keep trying harder, and that maybe there was something we could do from our end to change things.  There wasn't.  We have learned that we have to trust our gut with APs - if it's not working, we know, and we need to pull the plug sooner rather than later.  We have had great luck with re-match twice, though, which has helped us to be confident in a decision that an AP is not working out.  If we didn't live in high-density, high-AP-density east coast areas, rematch selection candidate pools would be a lot slimmer, and we problem would be a lot more hesitant to rematch in the future.[/quote]

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