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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry. My friend called at 9pm last night saying her toddler kept asking for mine so she wanted to know if they could get together today. I don't see anything wrong with saying sure, my nanny will meet them at the park/zoo/library/whatever at 10am. Rather than disturb my nanny in her off time I just left her a note for when she got in this morning. I didn't think I needed to get her approval or give any warning ahead of time for things like that. [/quote]
My MB would leave me a note asking me to call the mom to let her know if we'd like to get together that day. It's how we have a mutually respectful relationship.[/quote]

Exactly. If your toddler had another friend that had wanted to go to the library for story time with her at 10am and we had already made plans for that, and then you set up a different playdate for that same time, then we would have a problem. If I had the option to call and say that day wasn't good for us, and then plan a day that WOULD be good, that would be much better. As their nanny, I tend to make the playdates or work WITH the mother to do so for the time I have the kids, and so the mom doesn't always know what we have planned. [b]She doesn't ask for our "schedule" in advance, I just let her know that day what we think we will do[/b].[/quote]

It's great that works for you. I leave the house before our nanny arrives in the mornings and normally get home after she leaves. Just because your way works for you it doesn't mean my way is disrespectful. My nanny and I have a different setup is all. She would never make plans for a future day without running it by me first. [/quote]

My boss trusts me and has hired me for a reason, to do things like this. She leaves the activities up to me as I know most of the friends, I know what our usual regular schedule is for certain activities and I am the one bringing the child everywhere. She would never insist that we do something without talking to me about it first or giving us the option to schedule it for another day. You never know what might happen that day including the child getting sick and us not being able to go for that reason. She will leave me the contact info for the friend in question, a possible place and time, and then let me confirm with the mother/nanny/au pair of the other child or set something up for later. There is no reason to have someone else confirm for me when it is just a simple playdate and not that important in the grand scheme of things. It is a totally different story if it is for something like a lesson or doctors appt that has to be structured a bit more and doesn't always let us just pick and choose when it would be convenient for us.[/quote]

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