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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]14:58, thank you!! I really appreciate your honesty. I probably do sound a little ridiculous, but maybe I secretly feel like I'm doing something wrong because she'll get so randomly nasty with me.[b] It's always been hard for me to not take it personally when a kid is mean to me -[/b] I know that's stupid and unprofessional, and it's something I'm getting away from, it's just been a bit of a long transition. I think your suggest to ask how they want me to handle her tantrums is a fantastic one, and you seem to understand that peace of mind that is needed. The mom did say recently she really likes how I correct her, so I'm sure I'm fine and if they have a nanny cam they aren't bothered by what they see...you're right, I am being a bit ridiculous with this [b]anxiety[/b]. I think [b]I just start obsessing about things in my own head and then imagine some scenario [/b]that doesn't even make sense in the real world!

Thanks again, I feel a lot better![/quote]

OP, I think you're doing just fine and it sounds like you have a good relationship w/ the parents.  Based on some of your comments above I'd say that you possibly are taking things too personally, though I think that's also a reflection of your commitment and caring.  But I will say that in my opinion kids are like animals - they can smell fear, anxiety, weakness, etc...  So if this little girl is aware that she can push your buttons she will.  If she's getting worse since you've been with her I think it's possible that she is learning just how to get under your skin - for whatever purposes (attention, getting her way, attention, displacement of other anger in the household she can't process, attention, etc...)

So maybe you need to try to defuse your own triggers a bit, at least try to fake a total lack of concern or emotion around her behavior.  Perhaps if her behavior stops getting so much of a reaction she'll try to find other tactics.  Try to aggressively reward behaviors you like (and it sounds like you get a lot of that) with attention and give her absolutely no emotion or attention for the nastier stuff.

Not that this is a groundbreaking idea you wouldn't have though of.  It's just that the way you frame your own thinking above made me think that this girl has really figured out how to push your buttons so if you're more conscious of that you might be able to rob her of her power, and you of the aggravation.

Good luck![/quote]

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