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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some of you prior posters are so insecure and defensive.

You all need to remember that your MBs and DBs are your bosses.  My boss tells me what to do all the time.  Not rudely or disrespectfully, just directly, as in "I need you to look into this by tomorrow or finish with x by Friday."  To me, that is no less of a request than if he were to say "Pretty please, could you possibly write up a report on that by Thursday."  If for any reason I can't or don't want to comply, I simply say something like "Actually, that's going to be a problem for me because...."  If I think of a way to meet his needs without compromising my own, I propose that.  No drama, no anger at being disrespected, just me being aware of the fact that different people have different interpersonal styles.

Some people just tend to phrase requests in statements rather than questions.  What matters is the intent, not the phraseology.  
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Uh, "Can you take Charlie to the swimming pool today?" has two ACCEPTABLE answers: yes and no.

"Can you get me this report by Friday?" has one: yes.

So, not the same thing at all. This is also a babysitting job, not nannying - this mom is not her MB or boss in any way. For the sake of THIS arrangement, OP is an independent contractor and the mother is paying her for her services. Not employing her, not doing her a favor. OP is absolutely self-employed as an occasional babysitter, so no one is her boss or has the right to tell her what to do.[/quote]

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