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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG OP do not take this advice and drive by the house.

Accept her apology, assume things are happening behind the scenes on her end that are out of your control, and move on.

I like to think of relationships as a check balance book - every helpful, kind, generous thing done by someone goes in as a deposit, and every rude, selfish, or otherwise thoughtless behavior is a withdrawal. It doesn't sound like this MB is in the red yet, so just be gracious about it.[/quote]

Haha! I kinda like the check book analogy! Although, I'm not so sure what that says about the concept of unconditional love and forgiveness, but for less close relationships, makes sense, I guess.

OP, I really don't think you should be upset over this. Things happen, and maybe she talked to a friend or neighbor or even DH and they made her think the $$ was too high, who knows? Her follow-up actions, i.e. apologizing, caring about if you were mad, etc. should show you that she cares more than just a professional MB in a business relationship. What is she supposed to do? Shell out more than $300 just to not hurt your feelings?? Personally, that is TOO much to ask for, IMO, for one overnight with one baby. But, if you can get it, hey, good for you. Just dont be astonished and indignant when that rate becomes too much for someone who may have heard from her friend/neighbor/etc that she was paying way too much.[/quote]

I have to disagree that her rate was too high. People need to understand that there is no cheap rate to leaving your children (of whatever age) alone with someone else for the night because it is easier on you. Either take your kids with you, or pay the price of someone giving up their whole night and staying away from their own house and "their stuff". I am never as comfortable at someone else's house than I am at my own, never sleep as well in their guest bed than my own, etc. You either have to lug your laptop over with you, or anything else of "yours" that you want or do without. You are working which means dealing with potential nighttime wake ups and an earlier morning than you might have on the weekend when you can usually sleep in. All of this, what a sitter gives up, comes at a cost.

Anyone thinking that they can leave for 36 hours with the care of their precious child in someone's control for less than $250-300 is insane. I had an 8 yr old boy (his younger sister stayed with another friend) for 24 hours and got paid $240, and he was allowed to watch tv and play video games all day long if he wanted to. This was the rate his mom understood was fair, and she needed the care because she was headed out of town for a funeral (which she was not going to bring her kids along for). I gave her a slightly cheaper rate, I took off $50 from what I would have charged normally, and was only charging $50 for the sleeping hours (when the range is normally $50-75). She basically got the sleeping hours free and paid my normal rate for awake hours. I was just starting to move in to become a live-in (had movers earlier that day, but was fully moving in the next weekend) which is why I gave that discount to her.

If someone can find someone to do it for them for cheap, great for them, but they shouldn't be expecting just anyone to do that kind of care for them for a very low overall rate. This is a job for someone, not family or a very close friend doing you a favor.[/quote]

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