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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]This is my issue with it. I understand the need to work, but you have to be in some way selling your child short. In order for it to be worth it monetarily, you are being paid more than you are paying for care. You provide specialized individual care to someone's kid who has money, and to do so you send your kid to cheap daycare. I understand it may be necessary, but its a shitty situation. Your baby deserves you and the care you provide as much if not more than some rich woman's. [/quote]

No, it's not selling your child short. It's a profession. People choose it for a lot of reasons. You making it sound like some dramatic servitude to a rich woman is both odd and ignorant.[/quote]

I never said anything about servitude. I stated that your own child is more deserving of your attention than the child of some privileged rich woman. They are literally buying your attention away from your child. It is most definitely selling your baby short. If you were doing something else, anything else not related to caring for children, it could make sense, but your chosen profession is caring for children. The only reason you would choose someone else's kid over your own is for the money. It's really very sad to see so many women having to make this choice and so many privileged, also working women, so flippant about what they are expecting of another woman. They would never consider allowing nanny to bring her baby because 1) it takes away from their precious offspring who will get the best no matter what the cost to someone else, and 2) they are jealous, and know deep down they wish they could do the same. [/quote]

I am bewildered with this line of thinking.  We all - yes, even rich white women - leave our kids during the day when we go to work.  It makes absolutely no difference what you do during the day - if you go to work, you are leaving your kids "behind".  Why does it suddenly stop making sense to go work for money if your work involves caring for children? It's a job like any other.    Teachers care for children - should they not work because their own kids are not in their classrooms? Pediatric nurses care for children - should they not work because their own kids are not at their offices? (well I hope not).

Lots of jobs pay even less than nannying.  The woman who flips burgers at McDonalds isn't bringing her child.  Is McDonalds "literally" buying her attention away from her child? Is she selling her baby short?

Why are you resentful because you can't afford to give your own kids what some other woman can?  Volvo plant employees probably can't afford to drive Volvos; couture seamstresses probably can't afford to wear Dior; top hairdressers probably cut their hair somewhere else unless their pals are doing it for free.  It's the nature of the world.  Because you happen to be in the job that provides services to the upper class (which you have to be to afford a nanny), you are suddenly resentful of them?

And yes, some employers are cautious about letting nannies bring their babies, and this has nothing to do with class. It has everything to do with purchasing one type of service and getting it.  Why do you think nannies should get benefits that are unheard of at other workplaces? [/quote]

I actually don't have kids, so yeah.....not resentful of your rich self. I just find it appalling that women who spend their days loving and caring for children are forced to pawn their babies off to a cheapo daycare to care for a privileged white woman's baby. It's just twisted and sad, especially that you don't see the difference between this line of work and others. If I were a teacher, my kids would go to my school. If I were a doctor, I would care for my ill children. No matter what my job, if I could use it to the better of my children I would. If/when I have children I sure as hell will use my knowledge and skills for them, not send them to a daycare that can't hold a candle to me so I can cater to someone else's kid. [/quote]

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