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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I don't understand what people expect me to say. "Yes, please Nanny, open the package of pork chops I have set aside for dinner and make them for lunch"? [/b][/quote]

you say, but earlier you said: "We have a large supply of salmon and meat in the freezer."

So is something from this bulk freezer missing, or is your labeled pork chops for dinner missing from the fridge shelf?

Either way, then you say,

[quote=Anonymous][b]I really don't understand the nay-sayers on this thread, am I supposed to be totally passive and open up EVERYTHING in my home for my nanny's use?[/b][/quote]

Yeah, actually, that's sort of it. If she needs a bandaid, she'll use one of yours. If she wants to make coffee, she'll use one of your filters. If her hands are dry, she'll use some of your moisturizer. You say you have no other staff so I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt here that you really don't know this, but now you do. Your relationahip with your nanny will improve so dramatically when you treat her more welcomingly and less like she's a potential $20 liability.[/quote]

This is the problem with having parents come to the "Nanny Forum" instead of having the Nanny Discussion in the DCUM parents' forum  like before: you get mostly nanny POVs.  No, OP, you are NOT being unreasonable or selfish. You are being generous with all you provide to this nanny including compensation , benefits and food.  She should be able to feed herself well from what you provide. She should NOT be stealing your other food. She is stealing by taking the food without your permission.  I would let her go.  She has betrayed your trust. [/quote]

You also get nanny-haters like PP who doesn't even read the entire OP's post before fantasizing about her firing a nanny.

OP, if she is stealing your food, you absolutely should fire her.  I'd go as far as making sure to write an evaluation, and include the incidents.  However, as of now you are not sure if she has stolen, it's just a hunch (hear that 2:10 IF).  I would definitely ask her, I'm sure you can read her face and tell if she's being honest or not.  Maybe a camera?  Sorry you are in this situation.  As to why should would steal...some people just have issues with stealing, (Winona Ryder), it's best she seeks help if it's true.

-Nanny[/quote]

Nanny,

If it's not OP or her husband, and she doesn't have any other staff in the house, who is it if not the nanny?  The kid?  It's more than a hunch and the nanny already denied taking the food to her face!  What good is asking her again and why waste time and money on a nanny cam ( which many nannies here do not want employers to use without notice)?  I have a nanny that has worked for me for ten years and has never taken anything from our household without permission and I can trust completely. I want OP to have the same peace of mind. [/quote]

I agree, if the nanny is stealing she should be fired and charges should be pressed.  However, I wasn't clear of the OP's intent.  Is she asking us if the nanny [i]did[/i] steal, or what to do know that she knows she stole.  I first would find out indefinitely, just to be safe.  [/quote]

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