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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The fact is, her nanny had a hunch. She's not a doctor and she didn't know 100% that it was in fact milk that was making the child sick. None of what you are saying applies here because she didn't know for a fact that it was a milk allergy.

To do this on a hunch without telling MB was wrong.[/quote]

If you give your child something,[b] an hour later they're sick[/b], and the next day you don't feed it and they aren't sick... you would continue to experiment, would tentatively conclude that it was an allergy or intolerance, and would make an appointment with your doctor. Nanny did discuss it with them and she said, from that same experience of feeding and not feeding and sick and not sick, "I think this is a milk allergy" and the parents believed it was TEETHING? Teething comes with a cold, sometimes a fever, plenty of drool, more or less sleep, it does NOT come with vomiting and diarrhea. That's lazy parenting and I salute the nanny for making a decision that would prevent the child from suffering needlessly.

OP I've changed my mind. Fire your nanny so she can find a family who listens to her concerns and values her experience and expertise.[/quote]

Where did this "hour later they're sick" come from? OP did not say "every time I give milk, an hour later he's sick."
If it was this easy to diagnose a milk allergy, who needs doctors, just get the nannies to do the doctor's job. They know best. To question them at all is a sin.[/quote]

Oh for the love of...

Some of you people here are seriously dumb. It's an example, not a stated fact regarding this specific incident. What it means is that if you are a parent and your child gets sick soon after eating something, you HOPEFULLY can put two and two together and will experiment to see what affects it - presumably the nanny also did this, withholding dairy and seeing if he still got sick, etc. because THAT IS WHAT PEOPLE DO.

If, as OP stated, the nanny raised her concerns [b]numerous[/b] times, then I am still on the nanny's side here - she did what was right for the child when the parents couldn't be bothered to explore the issue their EXPERIENCED nanny believed was causing his stomach illness. Her choices were

a) disobey her MB and make a change to his diet 
b) follow MB's rules and make the child sick 
c) quit

It just doesn't seem fair to the nanny to be stuck in that conundrum, with an MB who ignores multiple conversations about milk being a trigger/cause.[/quote]

My intent was not to ignore my nannies suggestions, I assure you.  My intent was for ME to make these decisions for my son.  If I had found out she was disobeying me and my son was not lactose-intolerant I would have already fired her.  The fact that she was right puts me in a tough spot because she did do what's best, but at the expense of my trust.[/quote]

I'm a MB.  Why did you not listen to your nanny's advice?  Are you that convinced that you know so much better as a first time parent than your experienced nanny?

Seriously.  I rely on my nanny to talk to me, and I TRUST HER OPINION enough.  She didn't destroy your trust; you just demonstrated your disrespect for her.  If I were her, I would be looking for new employment with a family that actually thought my judgment valuable.[/quote]

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