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[quote=Anonymous]I think it really depends on the relationship you have established in both your work AND 'friendship' level relationship.

I, personally, work with a high number of LGBTs in my profession.  I know that our nanny knows this (may be a bit too 'anti' LGBT for my taste, actually) and I know that if we had a LGBT caregiver...out or not...they should feel free to speak openly about their 'life' with me.

It's so funny, because despite the high level of LGBT members in my profession, I find myself STILL making errors and typical hetero assumptions about people I work with...

I feel extremely honored when my colleagues share their special life events, and their family stories with me...it means they trust ME.

And I think that is where you have to balance all of this...on your comfort level...on their comfort level and on your dynamics comfort level.

My guess?  If you all get along well, and there is no sense that they would have an 'issue' with anything...maybe they are thoughtful enough to already have some ideas that you are a lesbian.  If it hasn't disrupted their thoughts about you or the job you do to this point...they likely won't care one way or another.

Just for ME...and I am not the norm, I know...I want to be the kind of MB that supports their Nanny.  I want her to feel like she is comfortable enough with us to just live her life openly with us.  I would feel somewhat bad, if we have not established a close enough relationship, for her to be hesitant about sharing certain things.

Now, the issue also wouldn't go beyond us...not the the neighbors, not to her contacts beyond our family.  Because I am well aware that those facts about her are HERs to tell others.

I don't know what your relationship is with your MB/DB...BUT, I would also consider the fact that they would want to be sure that they didn't make stupid hetero mistakes when talking to you, or interacting with you...just like the lucky guy comment.

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