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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe MB is 12 weeks along with a second child.

Maybe they were hoping to put off daycare a little longer, but know they can't afford a nanny for two small children.

Excellent daycares are difficult to get into, and it's much easier to get a sibling in than snag an open spot as a FTP. It would make sense, then, they'd take the opportunity of this spot opening up so they can have quality, secured childcare for both their children.

There are just so many possibilities here, I absolutely do not believe previous outraged posters are MBs. Let's all assume every mom we know is doing the best she can for her family.[/quote]

Was my theory too reasonable to be skewered by the fake MBs? I feel so left out.[/quote]

Hmmm, well if you know of a great daycare that gives the same or better quality of care to two children than a nanny does to her sole charges, go for it.  Personally, I usually work with 2+ kids because parents find that it's cheaper that way...[/quote]

I didn't say they give better care, although I do believe there are pros and cons to both. But with a newborn and an about-3 year old they are looking at a fairly steep increase in nanny pay. It sounds like they're already stretched paying a nanny for one child (OP said she doesn't get market rates or raises, I think), so it seems unlikely they'd be able to pay for two-under-three. Or that they'd be comfortable with that! That is very demanding and as we are often reminded here, nannies don't have supervisors and coworkers who can step in when they get overwhelmed. Also daycares often offer sibling-discounts, especially if it's an at-home daycare. It's just one of many possibilities about what's going on here. Why are we so eager to slam these parents?

Maybe one of their employers is starting a round of layoffs and they're feeling insecure about their employment.
Maybe they have an unanticipated expense coming up, like mom got diagnosed with cancer and won't want the nanny and child underfoot every single day while she's undergoing treatment.
Maybe maybe maybe. No one knows but those two parents. I seriously doubt folks who'd elicit this kind of nanny-loyalty for two years are interested in simply fucking their kid over. I think there is more to it than OP knows and she's so self-absorbed she can't recognize that she is an employee, not a family member.[/quote]

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