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Do you really believe that severed caregiver relationships are so great for your child?[/quote]
It's not the long-term-ness of the caregiver that matters; it's how well the caregiver meets the current needs of the family.  His nanny did a fab job for a year that she cared for him.   Then he needed something else.  Change is a fact of life.  Caretakers come and go as the child's needs evolve. No one person can meet our every need. [/quote]

High turnover is precisely why so many parents avoid daycare. In fact, it's one of the major problems with daycare. No parent (that I know) believes that turnover of caregivers is good for their child during the first three years of life.

It's true that some mothers are so threatened by another caregiver, that they actually believe what you seem to believe. It's good if their child can't establish (and maintain!) long-term attatchments. Do you have a clue how ridiculous this is? It's the epitome of selfishness, at the expense of your child's healthy and secure development.
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No mother is threatened by her hired caregiver.  My child has a very close and secure relationship with me, with his father, his grandmother, and his preschool teachers. And when he's done with preschool, he'll say goodbye to them and begin forming a close and secure relationship with his kindergarten teacher. I would no more keep him with a caregiver who no longer is a good fit for his needs than I would force him to wear shoes he has outgrown.

The downfall of your argument is that you believe that nannies are the sole source of stability, attachment and love in a child's life.  They aren't.  They are but one brick in the foundation of the child's life.  When that brick is gone, there are still many others holding him or her up.  The change of one element in a child's life do
esn't mean that the rest of his life is in shambles. There's life beyond nannies, you know.[/quote]

Do you understand the difference between a 20-40 hour a week caregiver  vs.  a 60+ hour a week caregiver?

Mind you, I'm talking about WAKING hours.

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