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Op here- That is my worst fear-- being forgotten. I still think I am the most important right now because I spend about 45 hours a week with the baby. Much more then the parents. I do not want to be forgotten; I am hoping to keep a long term relationship with the child. I am trying to find new hobbies and I plan on seeing my doctor on Monday morning for depression. It hurts to get up in the morning and I go through the motions on my off hours counting down the hours until I see them again. I guess it is not normal to be this sad but I can't help it. I love my little jelly bean very much. I know I am not the mother or father but I do sometimes feel as if I am his second mom due to our bond and the amount of time we spend together.  :oops: Hopefully the meds will make me feel lighter and happier. Thanks for the good advice guys![/quote]
OP, don't take this the wrong way, but you have a problem.  Instead of being at peace with your role of a valued caretaker, you seem to be locked in a weird competition with parents, which you can never win.  No, you're not the most important person to this baby, not right now, not ever. I'm as grateful as could be to nannies we've had, but if any one of them would continue to insist that no! she's the most important person!, we'd break ties pretty quickly.

The fact that you "go through the motions of your off hours" and "count the hours until you see them again" suggests to me that nothing very much is going on in your off-duty life.  That's a problem. You may want to think about filling them with meaningful things.  If you work there 45 hrs a week, that means the parents work a very normal 9 to 5 life where they have every opportunity to be with their children.  You will move on from this family eventually, and you'll find other children to care about.  You've very young and there will be lots of other things you will get to care about. I hope the meds will help you. 
But even more, I hope you will be able to find things to fill your non-working life. [/quote]
Do you really believe that severed caregiver relationships are so great for your child?[/quote]

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