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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom stayed home with my siblings and me until the youngest was around five. She did household work (both indoor and outdoor) for most of the day, but engaged with is while doing it. She had an almost half acre (or full acre?) organic garden, canned our food, made complicated meals, kept the house spotless, and, after my parents purchased a hardware store, brought us there with her while she worked part time. She most certainly did not get help from my dad with anything domestic, ever, and the expectation was that domestic tasks were conducted during the "workday".

Despite this tragic neglect at my mother's feet, I grew up to be an excellent student, great college, top law school, highly prestigious jobs, now working in what many would describe as a dream job. Oh, and I know how to take care of my home, make my own meals, and wash my own laundry.

Just imagine how differently my life would have turned out if only my mother had stuck to child-related tasks while caring for me. If only she'd done more reading on hold development, sanitized my toys a bit more often, and researched child friendly events or opportunities. Maybe I'd have been able to make something of myself. [/quote]

Did your Mom have a home away from yours?  Did she only come to your home 5 days a week for eight to ten hours?  Did you have a father?  Unless your mother had only work hours to accomplish her housekeeping tasks and had no other adult to help her then your comparison is meaningless.  Perhaps a good nanny would have taught you what the word "comparable" means.  [/quote]

My father did not help with any domestic chores. No cooking, no laundry, no school planning, no bill paying, very little of the interior or exterior home maintenance (90% my mom) other than mowing or shoveling, no grocery shopping, and little engagement with kids in the evening hours. Mom did baths and bedtime. Dad relaxed with a beer after a hard day's work, if he was home by then. Mom was expected to accomplish all if this during the hours my dad was away, not when he was home, at which time she was expected to attend to him - dinner, spending time with him, etc.  "House work" was for the day time. And yet, she accomplished all of this while raising three highly successful children.

And I did learn the definition of comparable. Look, I'll even use it in a sentence: your work ethic is not comparable to hers. To be comparable, it would have to be close enough in nature to be able to compare. Having little or no work ethic (you) means that I cannot legitimately compare it to a strong work ethic (hers). [/quote]

Your mom didn't have a strong work ethic.  She was a doormat.
What does this even have to do with this discussion?[/quote]

You clearly don't know my mom. She's anything but a doormat. The life she and my dad had at the time, though, was divided that way by mutual agreement. He was launching a business and she covered the home.  And she managed to get it all done AND raise well adjusted, successful children.

What does it have to do with this discussion?  Well, certain nannies are arguing that if the nanny does anything that is not 100% child-centric, the children will suffer.  That's an absurd argument, and I raise the example of my own mother as an example. Capable, incredibly loving and dedicated mom, accomplished far more than just "child related" duties, managed not to cause harm to her children by doing so in their presence.

Nanny should not be a synonym for lazy. Please stop trying to demonstrate that definition. [/quote]

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