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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP/AP, please keep us apprised of what happens.  Based on your responses over six pages, I predict that you will return to your home country before the end of the year when you realize that there is more give and take to the AP/HF arrangement than you would like.  I understand your despair about being left alone while your HF is in Mexico, but I seriously don't understand your drama over it.  Seriously.[/quote]

OP here.

You're probably a bitter Host Mom, just saying  :mrgreen:  Otherwise you wouldn't wish me good luck in being sent home to end that "drama" !

I have read posts here where Host Moms weren't happy with their Au Pairs and wondering if they should do a rematch.
I believe you have to follow you heart and do what's good for YOU. Your family is not happy with the Au Pair and you don't picture yourself a whole year with her at your home : time or a rematch !

Same thing goes for me. I can't picture myself living with them for a year after being left out. This is how I feel and I have to do what's best for me.
And despite everything I'm doing my best with this kid (I like him very much despite his kicking/behavior issues).

I'm doing my part of the contract, I do the 45 hours and anything I see that needs to be done in the house I do it, and I cook dinner for everybody and do the full cleanup.
I'm teaching my language to the kid because that's why they chose me and I search teaching ideas for kids his age and come up with fun activites everyday.
The second week I was here, I had done my 45 hours and they had hired a babysitter that never came and even though I was very tired I offered them to go out and I would watch the kid.
So to the people who said I am not a good candidate for the program, you can keep your opinion to yourself because you can't be further from the truth !! 
I have wanted to do this program since I was 15 and went to the US for the first time with my class. I checked the requirements and did what I had to do : studies, driving license and experience with kids (working in a daycare and after school programs), my experience exceeds the 200 hours of experience that are required.

Anyways. I talked to my host parents after I put the kid to bed. We went to the den and had a quiet conversation. It was hard for me to tell them but I felt so relieved afterwards.
They wanted to keep trying for another week or two and see if we can improve things but I told them my decision was already taken and that I would leave.
They told me all the nice things they did for me, which I thanked them for, but that they want someone that's happy with everything.
So we have agreed I would stay as long as they can find a replacement and until I find another family as well.
They were surprised but had planned to talk to me next weekend because they felt I was sad ...
I'm so happy we could talk this over and that there is no bitterness. I will keep on doing my work the way I did and my host father has agreed to talk to the prospective families if they ask for it.
2 families will call this evening, one from Minnesota and one from New Jersey.

I'll let you know how it goes :)
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