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[quote=Anonymous]We found a nanny through a neighbors recommendation and she’s been with us for three weeks now.

She is very engaging with 8 mo old DC and very helpful around the house, which I really appreciate.

However, since the beginning I’ve felt she might be the first caregiver we’ve had that might have a competitive approach our DC’s affection, or that she’s attempting to take over the baby /household, which is really not the dynamic I’m looking for. Some examples:

-first few days she would make a big deal out of DC hugging her in front of me (not clear if he was actually hugging her) and if he clearly reached for me would try to keep him in her arms rather than handing him back
-she told me proudly that her previous nanny kid was sad she was nannying our baby because she is his “second mother” but she told him to “say grandma” to not hurt his moms feelings (you could tell she was proud about this)
-she told me that her other nanny family’s kid called her their “best friend” over and over ever since the kid was little 
-she says that “she would’ve had more kids if she could (she has 5)” and that being with my DC “reminds her of being with her kids when they were little”

In addition: 
-especially at first, despite instruction, she seemed to just be going rogue and feeding the baby whatever she wanted, whenever she wanted to, as many bottles a day and snacks across as many partial feedings as she wanted
- on multiple occasions I’ve set out food for my baby or told her what he should have for lunch and she’ll ask if she can feed him something else or just give him something else not on the menu 
-I will put the baby in clothes for the day or set an outfit out and she will change him into something else without asking
-she will feed him to sleep even though I’ve said we try to avoid that

Anyway, am I  right to be irritated? Is it best I cut my losses early or am I overreacting?

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