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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi,

I'm a FTM, no nanny/never have used a nanny, with elementary aged kids. My FT housekeeper (who does not have any childcare duties but started her career as a nanny) refers to my youngest child as "her baby." I know she has really taken to my kids over the three months that she's worked for us but this really bothers me and I don't know if my reaction is okay. Today as I was running out the door to pick my kids up and take them for a surgery consult for my child, she told me to "take care of my baby" meaning hers. She has mentioned that one family she nannied for, the kids referred to her as "mom," I would really, really not be okay with this. I was not raised by my mom because she didn't want to be a mom so this is an especially sensitive area to me. Would love to know what boundaries would be okay establishing and how to relay this to her.[/quote]

Oh wow.  That is very inappropriate and unprofessional.

I’m a live-in nanny.  I prefer 24/5, 6 or 7.  Children slip and call me by the wrong name or title frequently, whether it’s an aunt, former nanny or AP, mom, teacher, coach, etc.  It happens occasionally to many adults in children’s lives, especially if a child is excited to tell you something.  However, adults who want what’s best for children gently give the correct name and don’t let it continue. In over 15 years of nannying, I’ve only had one child who started calling me mommy on a regular basis.  That child didn’t have a mother in his life at that point, but his father and I still did not feel it was appropriate, so I continued to give the correct name every time.[/quote]

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