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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would just text (since that's how you're talking about) and say something like "I was thinking I'd reinstall the car seat tomorrow during my break so that it's set up for Larlo now that's gotten so big <heart emoji> - let me know if that's a problem or if you have any concerns" then if you hear nothing, you can just do it. [/quote]

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Would other Nannie’s really just go ahead and adjust the car seat, even though the parent doesn’t want it that way? I would never touch it as I think she’s the mother and she should make that decision…. I’m all confused
There’s no way I can touch it, she’s a total control freak and that’s why I’m quitting because I can’t get anything done [/quote]

PP here. The timing in my advice is important. I don’t think it’s okay to just do it. I’m advising you to inform her you intend to do it and give her plenty of time and space to say “oh, no, please don’t.” She reads your texts, right?

But I was assuming that she just hasn’t gotten to it or doesn’t think it’s a big deal. Do you have a reason to think she actually prefers the seat like this and this is an active decision on her part to leave it like this for some reason? Because that would be REALLY weird. [/quote]

Thank you so much for your nice reply!
No! She’s totally into safety, so that’s why I’m on here asking what to do… she’s totally ignoring my advice! A normal mother would be like omg I didn’t know thank you let’s change it now. 
I’ve been there for 3 years bc I tried to not disrupt the child during divorce, but now that they’re divorced and he moved out a year ago, she’s changed a lot. She’s a tiny like the 4 yr old is a baby, cut food into tiny pieces , wouldn’t buy fruit bc she thinks he’ll choke and die. Only talks to the kid about negative stuff, like everything is so dangerous and you can die…eating a lollipop will kill you, smoking will hurt your lungs (?), fruit juice is dangerous bc too much sugar (not unhealthy, it’s more like dangerous?), can’t eat blueberries bc he’ll choke even at age 4, max at dad for buying a booster seat and telling kid how dangerous booster seats are (he’s 55 pounds 4 years, legally allowed at 40 pounds in my state)…. She never buys veggies or meat, even though I said 100 times buy me some meat I’ll cook I don’t mind. What family would say no to this?!?!?!
The other thing she kept saying she’d get me a pool pass for the town pool, I reminded her a couple times and she still didn’t get it, one time she said I’ll get it Friday …. I’m still waiting summer is almost over…
I’m guessing she doesn’t want me to take the kid swimming, which is fine, but just say so, why all this lying?!?!?!
I feel like I’m losing touch with reality… like I’m the freaking problem 
So I started looking for a new job and now I have so much anxiety that I don’t even know if I can even play with the next kid lol

But the car seat now is the cherry on the cake!
Is she just jealous bc she thinks I’m smarter or something? She is very controlling so maybe she just wants to be able to control me? That fear she uses with the kid is also just control I think… idk I’m going crazy lol all I want is have fun with the kid , be safe and cook healthy food for him..
Unless she just hates me lol[/quote]

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