Reply to What are we missing?

Forum Index » Employer Issues

Reply to "What are we missing?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]DS's nanny (Awesome nanny - AN) has been with us for over a year. In the last few months we've started to notice that she seems to struggling and in turn we're struggling trying to figure out how to address the situation. DH & I work from home full-time. DS is 18 months old. Awesome nanny is the mother of two daughters and previously nannied for several girls up to elementary school and one infant boy for a few month stint. DS is a very outgoing boy, but is in that awkward age of wanting to play with everyone but his first instinct is the "zombie baby" walk, which usually results in a forced hug or occasional pinch. We're working on addressing how to appropriately greet other kids at the playground, but AN has taken the unspoken position that there is something wrong with him medically. His pediatrician confirmed he's completely normal and he's just very advanced both physically and verbally. E.g., if you saw him you would assume he's 2+ yo because he's a massive boy.

Since taking the unspoken position that DS is anything other than a boy too big for his own britches, AN is more withdrawn, always asking if DS "is like this with you (meaning DH & I) about everything from wanting to do animal noises constantly to reading/not reading depending on his mood, etc. She also has taken issue with DS's love for my DH. DH & I try to keep to our offices as much as possible, but do come out for food and to say hello a few times a day - we do not step in to assist unless AN asks us to, but the biggest perk of being at home is to get baby kisses in the middle of the day and that will not change. AN has expressed that she no longer feels DS is attached to her and that he's more attached to my DH. I agree that DS loves his father (as he should), but do not understand the negative connotations behind AN's statements to us about the father/son bond. DS still asks for AN by her nickname on the weekends and seems to have tons of fun with her when they are together despite AN seeming more withdrawn as the weeks pass.

Our concern is that AN's relative inexperience with toddler boys may be informing her approach to DS and clouding her judgment of his actions - particularly after confirmation with DS's pediatrician that he's totally normal. I don't know how to help AN get back to her awesomeness. Any insight would be appreciated![/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics